Power
I recently created a mantra for myself, now posted on my refrigerator and bathroom mirror:
I will not allow others’ lameness affect my personal happiness.
Of course the word “lameness” is a slang term referring to anything negative, which includes but is not limited to:
- acts of unkindness
- rudeness
- inconsiderateness
- selfishness
- judgment
- baggage/issues
- gossip
It’s difficult to be a caring and considerate person in our current society because, frankly (Scarlett), most people just don’t give a damn. (Cue Gone With The Wind music.) I’m at a point in my life where I deserve to be happy and have a healthy sense of self-esteem and self-respect. I know I am a good person, but I find that I am sometimes hurt by others’ actions. I’ve realized lately that I can still be a kind and considerate person, but I don’t need to subject myself to the negativity of others. I will no longer give them power over me.
I think we could all benefit from adopting this mantra. I guess it sort of boils down to getting thicker skin, without becoming abrasive ourselves. It’s a difficult balance at times.