A Clarification
I think a terrible woman-on-woman crime is the judgment we pass upon each other as “stay-at-home” moms versus “working” moms. I wanted to clarify about my last post that I do think it’s important to have identity; that’s what I was struggling to communicate with my poem Someone. I think some would read it and gag on it, misinterpreting that the best identity in this world is a stay-at-home mother. I would never think a woman is a better or worse mother for choosing to stay at home or choosing to work. In my experience, staying at home with my children has been one of the most challenging decisions in my life. It’s a thankless job and I am someone who absolutely relishes and needs praise. However, I determined long ago that I decided to have children and therefore should ultimately be responsible for caring for them and raising them. I am fortunate enough to be in a financial position where I can stay at home. I have many friends who would give anything to be in this position. I have friends who only want to stay at home with their children. I admire them, because I don’t have their good qualities. But I have different qualities that are good, too. When my infant is school age, I will be dancing and skipping back to work with bells on my toes.
you are an amazing and accomplished person - those kids are so lucky to have you as their Mother….someone who is intelligent and talented enough to “be” everything to them!
love you!
Thanks Di. I think it’s hard to find balance in this life, particularly for a woman who has a big ego. Haha. Actually it’s hard to find the right balance in terms of identity. Who am I? I’m a daughter, a sister, a wife, a mother, a former career woman, I suppose it’s just one of those challenges in life in which we try to successfully navigate through.